“If you’re looking for a man who’ll love you for who you are, talk to your father” — Lady

A Nigerian woman has sparked debate on social media after sharing her views on relationships, dating, and marriage in a viral video that has attracted widespread reactions online.

In the video, the lady argued that men are initially attracted to a woman’s physical appearance and only develop genuine love after discovering her value and usefulness.

‘Be useful and have value’

According to her, women should focus on building value for themselves rather than seeking validation from men.

She said men are naturally protective and often move quickly to secure a relationship with a woman they truly want.

However, she claimed that a man who remains in a long-term relationship without making a commitment may still be considering other options.

“The reason why a man is going to date you for so long and never get married to you is because he is still trying to weigh his options while he’s with you,” she said.

The lady further advised women not to assume that time alone guarantees marriage, insisting that prolonged dating without commitment could be a sign of uncertainty from the man’s side.

Controversial advice on relationships

The relationship commentator also urged women to “treat men like jobs,” arguing that emotional investment and support in a relationship should come with some form of reward or reciprocity.

“Treat a man like a job. If there is no reward for whatever you’re doing, why will you do it?” she stated.

She added that women should avoid “playing fair in an unfair world” and should only invest in relationships where they feel appreciated and valued.

Watch the video here….

“If you’re looking for a man that will love you for who you are, then talk to your father”

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— Usbil (@usbil01) June 23, 2026